I have recently finished in my post as a fire fighter with Cornwall fire and rescue service. After 20 years this feels like a massive change for me but I am really excited about being able to concentrate on my therapy work. In many ways I feel like the picture above – having made the leap to a new start – there is an energy but also a scariness to this time for me. I just keep reminding myself that nothing is fixed and change is a vital part of life.
Before you speak, let your words pass through 3 gates –
Is it true
Is it necessary
Is it kind
A fragment from Rumi, 13th century poet.
A few years ago, after reading Night Walk by Chris Yates, I was inspired to replicate his experience, by walking through the night – from dusk to dawn. Setting out from his house he walks and rests the night away. Small acts of unusual activity can provide a break in routine. I love trying to find adventures close to home, especially when they are free and more importantly, bring about a new perspective on the world around me.
I had to keep reminding myself of an episode of Ramblings (a radio 4 walking programme) in which Satish Kumar scolds Claire Balding for complaining about the weather. ‘There’s no such thing as bad weather’ he cheerfully declares. And I do agree with him. The picture above was taken this afternoon, as I walked my dog through the murky storm. Being out in it was invigorating…and we had the world to ourselves ! I find being uncomfortable at times helpful, reminding me that we can’t control everything in life, but we can carry on, endeavouring to do our best, what ever circumstances we are engulfed in.
The episode of Ramblings is available to listen to on the internet – It is titled ‘Walking for spiritual renewal’.
You might also like to read Satish’ fascinating and enlightening autobiography, No Destination, in which he describes such experiences as joining the Jain monk brotherhood at the age of 9 and his 8000 mile peace walk, which he set out on penniless and without any equipment.
As I get older, the simple, elemental, fundamental aspects of life seem to grow more important and comforting. Water is a good example of this. It forms seventy percent of us. We die very quickly with out it. It is an absolute necessity of life. Perhaps this is why it is so soothing to sit by a favourite stream or on a loved beach.
You can stand in a river but you will never have the same particles of water flow over you twice. Water contains messages for us regarding the fluidity and change of life. Some also see water as a teacher of acceptance of what can’t be changed – such as Barry Stevens (the Gestalt therapist) who stated ‘don’t push the river, it flows by itself’.
Water – don’t take it for granted. We need it and it has much to give us.
As an avid reader I am always delighted to hear when other people have discovered the t power that the written word can hold. That feeling of sheer delight and surprise you get when a sentence jumps from the page straight into your heart and says ‘me too’. Bibliotherapy – the practise of reading to resolve ills or provide solace and comfort is now used by some GP’s. The reading agency is a charity that has been set up to recommend books that people of all ages may find helpful. They have complied booklists divided into age categories to help you find exactly the title you are searching for. Have a look at the excellent website reading agency.org.uk for some inspiring ideas.
There have been some spectacular cloud formations hanging in the sky over Mounts Bay recently. I have been lucky enough to have had some time to stop a while and watch as they change from one form to another. This process is in constant flux and reminds us that life flows and is not fixed. Understanding this can help us accept that change is constant in life. If you get a chance, look up at the clouds for a while – something simple can recharge us with a sense of awe and wonder at the physical world we inhabit.
I am excited to be returning to face to face work this week, following the Covid 19 restrictions. Obviously, precautionary measures are in place to protect clients – but it is great to be able to sit with others again. So much of the way we communicate is non-verbal, and this can be lost on the phone or internet. As communication is a bedrock of therapy, it is exciting to be able to return to working in a holistic way with clients.
I wanted to share a fragment of the lyrics of a song by Sarah Quartel called Wide open spaces. Her words made me think of how being in wide open spaces can make us aware of the spaces in us and how we might like to fill them…
Into the world now, look at me go
out in the wide open spaces around me
but as I journey out, I look within
and see the spaces inside of me
yet to be filled
filled with what I have seen
and what I will be
I am filling the wide open spaces inside of me
with something I love
with something I would like to be
filling the wide open spaces with in me.
So many of us have experienced devastating loss of one kind or another over the past few months.
Reading is one of my great pleasures and I have just finished a great ‘true story’ by Raynor Winn.
The Salt Path is an account of how two people manage to carve out a new (if difficult and challenging) life in the face of terminal illness and total loss of material wealth. I defy anyone not to be moved and inspired by her tale.